Why Women are Tempted To Cheat

If you are tempted to cheat, you are probably more intelligent and have a social or political intelligence that wants a level playing field when it comes to the so-called "war between the sexes." Many women simply have a simmering resentment toward the patriarchy that sometimes explodes in a desire to "do what men do to women." Unfortunately although the motivation is noble, you are still stooping to conquer.

Cheating or threatening to cheat is also a way to raise the "stakes" in your relationship. This is because as women we know that a man wants what he cannot have or cannot bear the thought of losing something (even if he doesn't really want it!)

Of course if you have just met someone online and are trying to make yourself more desirable by describing your potential for infidelity, all you may do is cause resentment and jealousy. On the other hand, this could also backfire on you as he could lose respect for you by thinking of you as a slut in his mind, or you could give him an easy way out if he really doesn't want the relationship in the first place.

Possibly the number one reason that women cheat on a long distance relationship is because their relationship is lacking a kind of intimacy. Not just physical intimacy, but also emotional intimacy. Your partner may simply refuse to "share his feelings" with you so you are going elsewhere to practice your nurturing skills and satiate your hunger for attention.

Your urge to cheat also might be caused by a well-known biological factor. Quite simply, you are lustier when you are ovulating. When a woman ovulates, brain chemicals and hormones might convince you that even the most unattractive of ape-like men is worthy of your sexual favors. So if you do feel like cheating, check your calendar to see what time of the month it is.

If you did cheat and you still want your long distance relationship to continue, you should consider why you cheated. Were you high or drunk? Were you out for revenge? Trying to create jealousy? Is this problem a pattern in your relationships? No matter what the reason it is important to accept responsibility for your actions and not blame him for your actions. Nobody can MAKE you do anything. Cheating is a matter of choice, not desperation.

If you do decide to tell him everything, start out by offering heartfelt apologies. Think of the way you'd prefer to hear this kind of harsh news. Needless to say, no matter how well you explain or apologize, you may not be forgiven. Expect that your partner will most likely be sad or angry or dump you.

My personal opinion is that if you are a woman and you are cheating, then you are not in love with your partner. You are best to be honest with him so both of you can move on.