What If He Doesn't Call?

Although women can be lax when it comes to calling or communicating long distance, it is much more common with men. This is because men tend to have better things to do then to sit all night in front of the computer waiting for a yahoo from a far away love.
When a man doesn't call, it means he is trying to establish control of the relationship. He is teaching you how things are going to be. He is giving you an idea of what you can expect from him until he and only he decides what path the relationship is going to take in the future.

When a man is really in love he makes an effort. He stays in contact and calls you or messages you at least once a day. They make even more of an effort when they know the phone call or message has the promise of lust or ego fulfillment behind it. However if you have been henpecking him for not calling enough or have been quizzing him too much about his activities he might be avoiding calling you because from his point of view you are too high maintenance.

If your rate of contact is not satisfactory to you and you have informed him that you are not happy and he still continues with the behavior then you might want to consider leaving the relationship. After all it is your evaluation of the situation that is going to define how much YOU trust him.

If you think he is playing games or still want him as a notch on your bedpost, you can always try using reverse psychology and contacting him less. Don't call him, let him call you.

If he does love you, he will start to wonder why you are not contacting him and shape up. If he doesn't contact you, then you need to assess your expectations of the relationship as well as what the boundaries were in the first place. Usually this situation occurs when the woman thinks, "we are together" while the man is thinking "she is just one of my little ducks all lined up in a row."

Also a man that is not calling might simply need some space. If you are calling him several times a day, he might be overwhelmed or even bored (especially if you are insisting on sharing all the mundane details of your day.) You know you are starting to bore your partner when he starts trying to get off the yahoo messenger or phone as fast as possible.

If he is not calling you, the worst thing you can do is demand an explanation. Simply be cool and act like you have a life. Don't call all the local hospitals where he lives or phone his family and friends!

Don't put yourself on the back burner in his life by agreeing to any kind of treatment from him including lack of contact. Mirror his behavior of non-contact and if he doesn't call, then you have your answer about exactly how much he respects you or loves you.