| There are a few things that you really
need to agree upon when you’re ready to travel and meet each
other. Here is a checklist of things to discuss as you arrange the
fine art of who’s meeting whom:
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Figure out your budget! If one partner is clipping coupons
and the other enjoys lunch in five star hotels every day, you
know there’s an imbalance. Try to work out budget between
each other that makes sense. Don't try and impress the other
person by pretending you have money when you don't. Agree who
is going to pay for what before the visit takes place. If there
are expenses, divide them roughly according to a percentage.
For example when I first met my future husband, who lived across
the great pond, he covered the flight tickets, while I provided
a place to stay, groceries and paid for all restaurant bills.
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Children! Obviously if someone has five kids and the other
partner has none then, it’s the responsibility of traveling
will fall on the partner who’s free to travel. However,
if both partners have children, it may be good to set up babysitters
so the two of you can enjoy an intimate escape at a hotel or
on a Caribbean Island.
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Should you plan a surprise visit? This depends entirely on
the character of your partner. If he or she is an extrovert
they might love the sudden surprise of you showing up at their
door. If they are a little more introverted or sullen they might
see it as an intrusion or feel like you are checking up on them.
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Make sure you book a hotel. I would say that the general rule
here is that you get a hotel the first few times until you know
this is the type of person you want be with. It allows for a
quick escape if things are not working as you hoped.
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